once i asked my friend who i hadn't seen in a long time the typical question, "how's life?" and she replied, "i couldn't be happier. i have everything that i want." how beautiful. never before have those words come out of my mouth. not that i'm a desperately sad person, but perhaps it's not been obvious enough for me what makes me happy or maybe i haven't devoted enough time to thinking about happiness in my life.
for now, in mexico, i find contentment in accomplishing tiny feats in a big city...such as remembering which street the post office is located on and actually sending off postcards to my loved ones. there's also a daily thrill in knowing that both the juice guy and the coffee guy expect to see me every morning at their respective stands and once they see my face, they begin to prepare my drink. it's nice, but digging further down, what else is there?
in the book, "the geography of bliss," the author writes about how people in switzerland are happy because their trains are always on time. always. (and they have really clean bathrooms). it's the consistency and reliability that makes swiss people generally happy. i wouldn't say that about mexico's public transportation. even though many of my travel plans, whether big or small, have been thrown off track because of transportation complications, i find a certain level of reliability in the non-reliability.
for example, one day last week i was taking the metro around town to find a ticketmaster booth to buy tickets to the mexico vs. spain futbol game (yeah, i'm going). during rush hour, the locals pack into the metro. after already taking one crowded metro train, i politely waited for my transfer train behind the yellow caution line. as soon as the train clambered down the tracks and the magical orange doors slid open, it was a stampede to get on the train. it felt like a strong wind was at my back, much like the brief thrill of leaving the metrodrome in mpls. no, to be more accurate, it felt like a thousand arms/bodies were propelling me forward as if we were all racing for that flatscreen tv at wal-mart on black friday. i got sucked into the vortex of bodies and one place you don't want to end up is in the middle of the train car without anything to hold onto. it's a claustrophobic nightmare for a 4'11" lady. so, one gentleman saw the momentary flash of fear in my eyes and he grabbed my elbow, pulling me out of severe discomfort into moderate discomfort. led to safety, i could now hug up against the wall of the train.
here, people on the train really take care of the women, children, and elderly. i can't really say that for the u.s. so, in mexico city, i trust that people will allow me some opportunity to find comfort on the crowded trains. and that makes me happy.
and trust is a major character in the story of happiness. i'm sure we are happier people if we trust our government or our local institutions. i don't think the supporters of oscar grant are happy right now because they have no trust in either the police or the court system. also, we need to trust the people we work with. we need to trust the people we hold close to our hearts. otherwise, we live in constant anxiety and doubt. yuck. i want to know that my family and friends will show up with me on any given day to take on the world together. and sometimes, we need to take a leap of faith to trust those we don't even know. and this freedom of trust -- it brings wonders.
